r james. 24. male. america's high five. music, photography, tattoos.
“The Day of Silence is a student-led national event that brings attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools. Students from middle school to college take a vow of silence in an effort to encourage schools and classmates to address the problem of anti-LGBT behavior by illustrating the silencing effect of bullying and harassment on LGBT students and those perceived to be LGBT.”’
I participate in the day of silence because I was bullied for my sexual orientation & gender identity in school. I was called names, pushed into lockers, treated differently by teachers & students, and threatened to be hurt because of who I am. It was not because of this bullying that I attempted to take my own life, but because I thought I had no other way out. I was told by society that being gay was not okay. I was told that being transgender was not okay. Too many people are silenced by murders or suicides relating to bullying in the LGBTQ community. Too many people thought there was no other way out than death.
You can’t help who you love or who you are, and you shouldn’t be bullied or penalized for living the life you were meant to live. You are normal, you are loved, you are meant to see the day when it will get better, and you are meant to be an agent of change in the movement towards full equality and acceptance.
I am a trans man, I am a victim of bullying, I am an ally of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Queer community, and I am going to help in the fight against LGBTQ bullying in schools.
Anonymous asked: That's a relief to hear (about the compression vest)!! If I can wear a binder during the summer I can definitely wear a compression vest. And 2 weeks isn't a long time. Makes me feel like it's definitely the right decision to go ahead and do it this summer instead of waiting, so thanks! Maybe I'll try to get the same one as you, since it seems like yours was reasonably comfortable. Do you know it's make and model?
I was fortunate enough to follow someone on tumblr who was getting rid of their surgical vest from a surgery with Dr. Medalie, and he graciously sent it to me for free. They will send you a pamphlet and they will circle the garment you should buy, and they also send you a discount code for purchase. I would recommend getting it in black (it comes in black or white).
Anonymous asked: I'm hoping to get periareolar top surgery this summer. I just learned, though, about having to wear a compression vest for a while after, which I imagine would be hot in the summer. How much worse is the compression vest than a regular binder. And how long did you have to wear it after surgery?
The compression vest pales in comparison to a binder. It’s not NEARLY as tight or constricting, and it’s very breathable. I was required to wear it 2 weeks after surgery, but the day I got my drains out, my mother accidentally threw my vest in the dryer, causing it to shrink. After it shrunk, it rubbed on my back and shoulders, causing sores and bleeding and a LOT of discomfort. I stopped wearing it about 3 days before I was supposed to, but everything turned out just fine. I had surgery in August, and I thought it was going to be wicked hot, but it wasn’t bad at all. Best of luck to you!
Anonymous asked: You're an inspiration, dude!
Anonymous asked: Hey, I was wondering how your scars for Post-op aren't visible, I'm always worried about them because I'd like mine to be as less visible as possible/
I had the Peri procedure, so my scars are around my nipples. They can be hard to see because of their placement, but if one were to look close enough or know what to look for, they can be seen.
There are several home remedies for scar care, including strips, creams, and oils.
Been finally seeing some significant facial hair come in. My students have been commenting on it, so I made an attempt to shave it into some semblance of a pattern. Usually it goes most of the way down my neck, but one of my fourth graders said it was time to clean it up. Cute kids.
Too bad I had to wait until I was 24 to start growing facial hair. Never too old I suppose.
Two years on testosterone, one year on compounded cream, one year on injections. One year on Lupron (anti androgen).
You are not allowed to say
- He’s a boy, but
- He’s not actually a boy
- He’s actually transgender
- He doesn’t have the right “parts”
- He was born a girl
- He used to be a girl
You are definitely not allowed to say
- and “Hers”
When I have specifically told you to use
- and “His”
If you don’t know don’t assume; ask.
If you do know, don’t out.
The only circumstance when it’s okay for you to out me is if I say it is okay.
devouronemillionfreckles- asked: you are so attractive. that is all.
Thank you! It’s a good thing there’s a computer screen in front of my face because it would definitely be bright red right now!
Celebrated two years on T on the 10th. One year on Androgel, on year on injections. The 2nd also marked 6 months post-op. I look at myself in the mirror and don’t see “pre-op” being six months ago. I’ve fallen so quickly and comfortably into the current state I’m in, it feels a lot longer than 6 months. I’m also starting to grow some pretty substantial facial hair. I can’t wait to see what the next few months bring. I’ve recently jumped back on the gym bandwagon after a month or so of being too busy to take the time out. But summer will be closing in quickly, and I intend to spend all of it shirtless.
Cheers to the best 2 years of my life, and many more to come.
Just when you think you begin to have faith in humanity. It’s easy to get to this “happy place” where nothing bad happens and you think you’re untouchable. Articles and instances like this are a sharp sting of reality.
This one really struck a chord with me. It’s gonna stick with me for a while.